One of my Twitter friends (wait, don’t go, this post isn’t about Twitter!) who goes by the name Shika, posts horoscopes daily. I think she gets them via SMS from somewhere and reposts to Twitter. Anyways…
I don’t put much faith in horoscopes, but they’re fun. And the horoscopes for my sign, Cancer, that Shika has been posting are surprisingly fitting at times. Of course, I’m sure the horoscopes for, say, Virgo, would also be fitting for me at times, but let’s ignore that thought for now.
I was excited to see this horoscope today:
Time on my own? Seriously? I can have that?
OK, I spend most of my days alone. Pat’s at work, the kids are in school. I can go anywhere, do anything.
But a slightly extended “time on my own” where I only have myself to answer to sounds pretty tempting. I always feel like I have to get things “in order” before I take time for myself. Of course, things are never “in order.” So being physically apart from all that I’m comfortable and familiar matters. I have important choices and decisions to make, and being surrounded by what’s familiar isn’t giving me the giant shove I need to get there.
When I do take time for myself I usually fire up the MacBook and hang out online, which is fun but not especially inspiring over the long term. What I need is a trip out of my comfort zone, without even my husband along, not because I wouldn’t enjoy his company, but because I need to break my habit of deference to and reliance on him as well, or it’s still all the same.
Is this making sense? Is it a realistic, non-selfish, well, it’s inherently selfish, but is it a rudely selfish thing?
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It makes sense.
IMHO, it’s not rude if it has the desired affect.
I might not suggest a trip somewhere to learn about how Macromey and the Bee Gees changed the 80’s, but you know, a solid quest for something actually needed to advance ones self(image, esteem, or knowledge) could be a damn good thing!
Texas is nice this time of year… need any knowledge about microbrews? lol
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Great idea to take time for yourself. I’ve done that a couple of times; one time I even spent the night away by myself. What I did was get away from my computer, my job and my family. I took time to really walk through my favorite museum, sit idly in the park and listen to the birds and the breeze, and eat somewhere my family wouldn’t normally go.
So yeah, take a day!
(got here from your twitterz)
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Taking time by yourself is a good thing, and not necessarily a selfish thing. If taking that time gives you a chance to refresh and recharge yourself, and remind yourself of what you are capable of it benefits everyone.
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If you did it all the time (taking “me” time), it might be selfish, but an occasional “time out” for yourself is really nurturing. I kwym about not really having any time for yourself. Lately I can’t even stay home long enough to clean the house. For example, just today I cancelled a massage so I could clean, only to get a phone call from the neurologist Morgan had an appt. with to tell me they could get her in today. So instead of doing what I had planned, we quickly made a trip to the doctors!
So, take some “me” time…heaven knows I need some too!
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